In a society obsessed with sex, David Jay wants no part of it.
Jay, a 26-year-old graduate student at the Presidio School of Management in San Francisco, acknowledges that his lack of interest in sex may seem unusual to many who view intercourse as the epitome of intimacy.
But research suggests that about 1 percent of the population may share Jay’s view on sex. And he said that for many of these people, coming to terms with their feelings about sex can be a major challenge.
“When I was younger, the message I would always hear is that you need sex to be happy,” he said. “I realized probably around the age of 14 or 15 that all of my friends were actively talking about sex. I just couldn’t relate to it; I had no interest at all.”
Jay said that it took him about four years of struggling to adjust to the fact that he simply did not view sex in the same way as most other people.
“It was really scary, really frightening,” Jay said. “I think that throughout the asexual community, there are a lot of people who really start in that place of being isolated and confused.”
"You all know what Gandhi did. He didn’t eat, which made him very thin. He also walked everywhere he went, which built up a lot of callouses on the soles of his feet. When he did eat, he ate Indian food which is spicy and likely gave him bad breath. When he died, he is reputed to have left behind many prophecies about the future. So I guess you could say he was a SUPER CALLOUSED FRAGILE MYSTIC PLAGUED WITH HALITOSIS.”
“After this failed relationship, I guess I’ll be asexual for a while.”
I’ve overheard a lot of people make joking comments similar to this. What they mean is their sexual relationships aren’t quite working out the way they want, so they are accepting their unfortunate circumstances. Though the joke may seem appropriate, such comments ignore the fact that many people are asexual. Asexuals don’t just happen to be sexually inactive at the moment – they actually claim asexuality as a sexual orientation and identity.